Sex Toys for Couples: 8 Ways to Add More Pleasure and Intimacy

Sex toys can do more than enhance masturbation. In partnered intimacy, they can introduce new sensations, make familiar positions feel different, and help couples explore pleasure together.

Below are eight creative ways couples can incorporate sex toys into partnered intimacy. Some examples focus on specific positions or dynamics, but most can be adapted based on your bodies, preferences, and comfort level.

A butt plug is one of the easiest sex toys to add during partnered sex because it works with many positions. One popular option is wearing a butt plug during vaginal sex, which can create a fuller sensation and lightly mimic the feeling of double penetration without requiring anal sex.

You can also wear a butt plug during oral sex. Your partner can gently tug or move it to add extra stimulation while using their mouth elsewhere. Or, you can simply leave it in place and enjoy the steady pressure throughout the experience.

However you use it, a butt plug offers a simple way to add more sensation without changing your whole routine.

An egg vibrator can make oral sex feel more mutual and interactive. Instead of using the traditional 69 position, one partner can receive oral sex while controlling their partner’s egg vibrator with a remote. This lets both partners give and receive pleasure at the same time.

This setup can also feel more comfortable than 69. The giver can kneel, lie down, or choose an easier position while still enjoying stimulation from the egg vibrator.

Even couples who enjoy 69 may find this a fun way to switch things up while keeping more eye contact and connection.

A wand or sucking vibrator can make cunnilingus feel more intense and layered. During oral sex, one partner can use the toy directly on the clitoris while also using their mouth, tongue, or fingers elsewhere.

For example, you can combine several sensations at once:

• Finger penetration inside the vagina
• Clitoral stimulation with a wand or sucking vibrator
• Tongue stimulation around the labia, inner thighs, or other sensitive areas

You can also shift the toy to the nipples for a different sensation. This gives the receiving partner more variety while keeping oral sex playful, focused, and highly stimulating.

Anal beads can add intensity during doggy style, especially for couples already comfortable with anal play. Many couples insert the beads first during foreplay, so the focus during sex can stay on removal and sensation.

During doggy style, one partner can slowly remove the beads while thrusting. Removing several beads in sequence can create a stronger, more intense feeling. If that feels like too much, remove them during pauses instead. This lets you separate the sensations while still enjoying both vaginal or anal stimulation and anal bead play. For extra intensity, your partner can also add light spanking while the beads remain in place.

This technique gives one partner blended stimulation through penetration and clitoral touch. One person can control the vibrator or dildo, while the other uses their hand to stimulate the clitoris. When it comes to selecting the penetrative sex toy, a vibrator can add internal vibrations that fingers alone cannot provide, while a dildo can offer fuller penetration and steady internal pressure.

In this setup, one partner receives all the pleasure, but both people shape the experience together. That shared effort can make the moment feel more intimate, coordinated, and responsive. It also lets both partners stay actively involved, even when the pleasure focuses on one person.

A wand vibrator can add strong clitoral stimulation during cowgirl. While one partner rides on top, she can hold the wand against her clitoris for extra pleasure during penetration by her partner underneath.

This works well because she controls the placement, pressure, and intensity herself. Since her hand moves with her body, it is often easier to keep steady contact while riding.

The wand can make cowgirl feel more intense without changing the position. It simply adds focused external stimulation to the rhythm and movement already happening.

A wand vibrator can also add strong clitoral stimulation during doggy style. Since the receiving partner faces away from the one penetrating her, it usually works best for her to control the wand herself.

This gives her better control over placement, pressure, and intensity while her partner focuses on penetration. It also avoids awkward reaching from behind, which can interrupt rhythm or feel uncomfortable.

This technique can work equally for both vaginal and anal sex. Either way, the wand adds focused external stimulation to a position that already feels intense for many couples.

Strap-on toys can add a playful power dynamic to partnered sex. They allow one partner to take on a more dominant role while the other experiences penetration, control, and surrender in a different way.

This can also create room for role reversal. For couples who usually follow familiar bedroom patterns, strap-on play can shift who leads, who receives, and how each partner experiences power. That change alone can make the moment feel more exciting and psychologically intense.

Sex toys are not just for solo play. When used together, they can help couples add more pleasure, variety, and connection to familiar positions and routines.

The ideas above are only a starting point. With communication, comfort, and a little imagination, couples can find many creative ways to incorporate toys into their sex life and make intimacy feel more playful, responsive, and exciting.